FINAL EXIT AND RELATED LINKS


PREFACE

There is no point going out in a lot of misery in my view of the endgame.  I have watched too many suffer a great deal in their passing, and have over time pulled together a collection of thoughtful, informative, and compassionate articles, links, and quotes, for those who might wish to consider a less painful, more peaceful alternative for both themselves and those who love them ~ Michael Holshouser


FINAL EXIT

Final Exit

Wikipedia: Final Exit


QUOTES

They tell us that suicide is the greatest piece of cowardice ... that suicide is wrong; when it is quite obvious that there is nothing in the world to which every man has a more unassailable title than to his own life and person ~ Arthur Schopenhauer

Just as I shall select my ship when I am about to go on a voyage, or my house when I propose to take a residence, so I shall choose my death when I am about to depart from life ~ Seneca

Am I a criminal? The world knows I'm not a criminal. What are they trying to put me in jail for? You've lost common sense in this society because of religious fanaticism and dogma ~ Jack Kevorkian

Your much-loved father-in-law, Gaius Julius Caesar, died this afternoon. As you know, he has been suffering from a malignancy in the throat for some time. And this afternoon he fell on his sword. He chose the best alternative, as I’m sure you will agree. No man should linger to be a burden to his loved ones, especially when it detracts from his dignity and integrity as a man. Is there one among us who prefers life to death when life means lying in one’s own excrement, or being cleaned of their excrement by a slave? No, when a man cannot command either his bowels or his gorge, it is time to go ~ Publius Rutilius Rufus (In a letter to Gaius Marius in The First Man in Rome, an historical fiction book by Colleen McCullough)



ONLINE ARTICLES

In 'The Suicide Plan,' Frontline Explores Hidden World of Assisted Suicide
http://www.pbs.org/newshour/rundown/2012/11/the-suicide-plan-frontline-explores-organized-world-of-assisted-suicide.html

Weighing the End of Life
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/03/opinion/sunday/weighing-the-end-of-life.html?_r=0

When Prolonging Death Seems Worse Than Death
http://www.npr.org/2012/10/09/162570013/when-prolonging-death-seems-worse-than-death

Passing thoughts at L.A.'s first Death Cafe
http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-beat-death-cafe-20130415-dto,0,7511397.htmlstory?track=lat-pick

How Rear Admiral Chester Nimitz Jr. and Joan Nimitz Chose to Die
http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/medical_examiner/2013/06/death_with_dignity_joint_suicide_of_rear_adm_chester_nimitz_jr_and_joan.html

Deciding to Die, Then Shown the Door
http://newoldage.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/08/24/deciding-to-die-then-shown-the-door/?_r=0

A Better Way to Die
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/06/a-better-way-to-die/276724/?google_editors_picks=true


Dying wish: Arguing the right to die

Suicide (1897)
http://durkheim.uchicago.edu/Summaries/suicide.html

Cremation: The New American Way of Death
http://lightbox.time.com/2013/06/13/cremation-the-new-american-way-of-death/?xid=gonewsedit&google_editors_picks=true

Americans Seriously Unprepared for Long-Term Care, Survey Finds
http://www.pbs.org/newshour/rundown/2013/04/as-boomers-age-most-woefully-unprepared-for-long-term-care.html

Helping Make the Best of the End of Life
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/07/helping-make-the-best-of-the-end-of-life/278039/?google_editors_picks=true

The Top 5 Things to Do When a Loved One Is Dying
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/judith-johnson/death-of-a-loved-one_b_3668193.html


How Much Time Is Left? Doctors, Loved Ones Often Disagree
My Mother Deserved to Die Comfortably
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/11/my-mother-deserved-to-die-comfortably/281146/?google_editors_picks=true

Is Funeral Home Chain SCI's Growth Coming at the Expense of Mourners?
http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2013-10-24/is-funeral-home-chain-scis-growth-coming-at-the-expense-of-mourners

Life Lessons From Dad: Caring for an Elderly Parent
http://online.wsj.com/articles/life-lessons-from-dad-caring-for-an-elderly-parent-1403886423?google_editors_picks=true

'Going to Switzerland' Is a Euphemism for Assisted Suicide
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/08/going-to-switzerland-is-a-euphemism-for-assisted-suicide/379182/?google_editors_picks=true

Coverage for End-of-Life Talks Gaining Ground
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/08/31/health/end-of-life-talks-may-finally-overcome-politics.html?_r=0

India has highest number of suicides in the world: WHO
http://zeenews.india.com/news/health/health-news/india-has-highest-number-of-suicides-in-the-world-who_1465051.html

Suicide kills one person worldwide every 40 seconds, WHO report finds
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/sep/04/suicide-kills-every-40-seconds-who


Meeting Death with Words

It takes a village - and lots of money - to care for a parent with dementia

How to Make a Living in the Death Industry
http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2014/09/how-to-make-a-living-in-the-death-industry/380536/?google_editors_picks=true

Fighting to Honor a Father’s Last Wish: To Die at Home
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/26/nyregion/family-fights-health-care-system-for-simple-request-to-die-at-home.html?_r=0

Next: Assisted Suicide for Healthy People
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jacob-m-appel/assisted-suicide-for-heal_b_236664.html

Why I Hope to Die at 75
http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/09/why-i-hope-to-die-at-75/379329/

Nearing death, two people offer a journalist and caregiver life lessons
http://www.latimes.com/local/great-reads/la-me-c1-caregiver-20141218-story.html#page=1?track=lat-pick

The Fallacy of 'Giving Up'

www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/02/04/513110234/why-immortality-is-overrated

Want to Live a More Fulfilled Life? Avoid the Number One Regret of the Dying
www.inc.com/scott-mautz/avoid-the-number-one-regret-of-the-dying-to-live-a-more-fulfilled-life.html

The Death and Life of John Shields
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/25/world/canada/euthanasia-bill-john-shields-death.html?_r=0&mtrref=query.nytimes.com&gwh=CB9225AFB3C572B6D2E760F9152718E5&gwt=pay


111 terminally ill patients took their own lives in first 6 months of California right-to-die law
www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-end-of-life-act-20170627-htmlstory.html

It's time to talk about suicides among middle-aged men
www.independent.co.uk/voices/chester-bennington-chris-cornell-suicide-men-middle-aged-a7854476.html

Suicide rate hit 40-year peak among older teen girls in 2015
www.cnn.com/2017/08/03/health/teen-suicide-cdc-study-bn/index.html

An unforeseen benefit of California's physician-assisted death law
www.latimes.com/health/la-me-end-of-life-care-20170821-htmlstory.html

Suicide Statistics
https://afsp.org/about-suicide/suicide-statistics/

With teen mental health deteriorating over five years, there’s a likely culprit
theconversation.com/with-teen-mental-health-deteriorating-over-five-years-theres-a-likely-culprit-86996

Literal death machine offers a way to peacefully slip out of existence
https://thenextweb.com/gadgets/2017/12/05/literal-death-machine-offers-way-peacefully-slip-existence/

Oklahoma plans to use new execution method
https://www.cnn.com/2018/03/14/health/inert-gas-death-penalty-oklahoma-bn/index.html

This Strange Syndrome Causes People to Think Their Loved Ones Have Been Replaced by Impostors
https://www.sciencealert.com/this-strange-syndrome-causes-people-to-think-their-loved-ones-have-been-replaced-by-impostors

When do you know you're old enough to die? Barbara Ehrenreich has some answers
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/apr/07/barbara-ehrenreich-natural-causes-book-old-enough-to-die

Your Body is a Teeming Battleground
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/05/barbara-ehrenreich-natural-causes/556859/

'I’m Not Happy. I Want to Die.' Australia's Oldest Scientist Will Travel to Switzerland for Assisted Suicide
time.com/5260855/australia-david-gooddall-euthanasia/

US suicide rates increased more than 25% since 1999, CDC says
https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/07/health/suicide-report-cdc/index.html

CNN's Anthony Bourdain dead at 61
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/tvnews/cnns-anthony-bourdain-dead-at-61/ar-AAyo1er

Radical ideas: Dying isn’t as bad as you think
https://www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/dying-isnt-as-bad-as-you-think/

All-American Despair
For the past two decades, a suicide epidemic fueled by guns, poverty and isolation has swept across the West, with middle-aged men dying in record numbers
https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/suicide-rate-america-white-men-841576/

Suicide among teens and young adults reaches highest level since 2000
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/suicide-among-teens-and-young-adults-reaches-highest-level-since-2000

Isolated And Struggling, Many Seniors Are Turning To Suicide
https://www.npr.org/2019/07/27/745017374/isolated-and-struggling-many-seniors-are-turning-to-suicide

I planned to kill myself at 27 – now I’m 28. Here’s what happened
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/may/15/kill-myself-bipolar-disorder-tortured-genius-kurt-cobain

Suicides and homicides on the rise in young people
https://www.nbcnews.com/health/mental-health/suicides-homicides-rise-young-people-n1067786

How to Recognize When a Loved One May Be Considering Suicide, and the Best Ways to Help
https://people.com/health/how-to-recognize-when-a-loved-one-may-be-considering-suicide-and-the-best-ways-to-help/

Your Brain 'Shields' Itself from the Existential Threat of Death
https://www.livescience.com/brain-shields-idea-death.html



WIKIPEDIA

Social Aspects

Suicide

Altruistic Suicide

Benevolent Suicide

Copycat Suicide

Suicide Epidemic

Euthanasia

Philosophy of Suicide

Religious Views on Suicide

Right to Die

Suicide Crisis

Suicide Crisis

Assessment of Suicide Risk

Crisis Hotline

List of Suicide Crisis Lines

Suicide Intervention

Suicide Prevention

Suicide Watch

Suicide Types

Assisted Suicide

Bullying and Suicide

Copycat Suicide

Familicide

Forced Suicide

Honor Suicide

Internet Suicide

Mass Suicide

Murder-Suicide

Prisoner Suicide

Suicide Pact

Suicide Attack

Suicide Methods

Suicide Methods

Inert Gas Asphyxiation

Suicide Bag

Suicide Booth

Euthanasia Device

Suicide Bridge

Lover's Leap

Charcoal-Burning Suicide

Suicide by Hanging

Suicide by Cop

Seppuku

Epidemiology

Epidemiology of Suicide


Youth Suicide

Suicide among Native Americans in the United States

Suicide Among LGBT Youth

Gender Differences in Suicide

List of Countries by Suicide Rate

History

History of Suicide

List of Suicides

Suicide in Antiquity

List of Suicides in the 21st Century

In Warfare

Suicide Attack

Banzai Charge

Kamikaze

Suicide Mission

Related Phenomena

Suicide Attempt

List of Suicide Sites

Suicidal Ideation

Self-Harm

Suicide Note

Suicide Terminology

By Country

Suicide in the United States
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_in_the_United_States

Assisted suicide in the United States

Organizations

World Federation of Right to Die Societies

Compassion & Choices

Death with Dignity National Center

Dignitas
Exit International

Final Exit Network

Hemlock Society

Church of Euthanasia
Miscellaneous Articles

Final Exit

End-of-Life Care

Voluntary Euthanasia

Euthanasia Device

Asphyxia

Lethal Injection

Terminal Illness
  
Advance Healthcare Directive

Do Not Resuscitate

Hippocratic Oath

Suicide Tourism

Advocacy of Suicide



GOOGLE SEARCH

Most Lethal Methods of Suicide

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:  (800) 273-8255
MOVIES & DOCUMENTARIES




BOOKS

Smoke Gets in Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematory
http://www.amazon.com/Smoke-Gets-Your-Eyes-Crematory/dp/0393240231?tag=viglink20242-20

Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End

The Conversation

How We Die: Reflections on Life's Final Chapter


THE SUICIDE PROJECT

The Suicide Project
http://suicideproject.org/

The Suicide Project: The Helium Hood Method

http://suicideproject.org/2010/07/helium-hood-method/#comments


NEPTUNE/TRIDENT SOCIETY & OTHER ORGANIZATIONS

UNITED STATES


Palliative Care in the United States

Hospice care in the United States



OREGON

How to Die in Oregon

Death With Dignity Act – Oregon Ballot Measure 16 (1994)


CALIFORNIA

California End of Life Option Act

How the California End of Life Option Act Works

Information on the End of Life Option Act

California lawmakers approve right-to-die legislation

California legislature approves bill legalizing physician-assisted suicide

111 terminally ill patients took their own lives in first 6 months of California right-to-die law

An unforeseen benefit of California's physician-assisted death law 


JACK KEVORKIAN

Wikipedia: Jack Kevorkian

Google Search: Jack Kevorkian

Google Images: Jack Kevorkian

Google Images: The Art of Jack Kevorkian


BRITTANY MAYNARD

Wikipedia: Brittany Maynard
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brittany_Maynard

Wikipedia: How to Die in Oregon
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Die_in_Oregon

Wikipedia: Death With Dignity Act – Oregon Ballot Measure 16 (1994)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oregon_Ballot_Measure_16_(1994)

Brittany Maynard, ‘Death With Dignity’ Ally, Dies at 29
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/11/04/us/brittany-maynard-death-with-dignity-ally-dies-at-29.html?_r=0

How Brittany Maynard renewed debate on ethics of right to die movement
http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Society/2014/1103/How-Brittany-Maynard-renewed-debate-on-ethics-of-right-to-die-movement

Why Newlywed Brittany Maynard Is Ending Her Life in Three Weeks
http://www.nbcnews.com/health/cancer/why-newlywed-brittany-maynard-ending-her-life-three-weeks-n221731

Beyond Brittany: Assisted Suicides Happen in Every State, Insiders Say
http://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/beyond-brittany-assisted-suicides-happen-every-state-insiders-say-n226966

Death With Dignity Advocate Brittany Maynard Dies in Oregon
http://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/death-dignity-advocate-brittany-maynard-dies-oregon-n235091

Brittany Maynard, Advocate for Death With Dignity, Ends Her Life
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/brittany-maynard-advocate-death-dignity-ends-life/story?id=26644431

Brittany Maynard, as promised, ends her life at 29
http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/11/02/brittany-maynard-as-promised-ends-her-life-at-29/



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MORE QUOTES ON SUICIDE
No law can give or take away the choice to commit suicide ~ Maggie Gallagher

I want to go when I want. It is tasteless to prolong life artificially. I have done my share, it is time to go. I will do it elegantly ~ Albert Einstein (Last words after refusing surgery, on 18th April 1955)

It is always consoling to think of suicide: in that way one gets through many a bad night ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Suicide is man's way of telling God, 'You can't fire me - I quit.' ~ Bill Maher

Suicide sometimes proceeds from cowardice, but not always; for cowardice sometimes prevents it; since as many live because they are afraid to die, as die because they are afraid to live ~ Charles Caleb Colton

Patients who are being kept alive by technology and want to end their lives already have a recognized constitutional right to stop any and all medical interventions, from respirators to antibiotics. They do not need physician-assisted suicide or euthanasia ~ Ezekiel Emanuel

There is but one truly serious philosophical problem and that is suicide ~ Albert Camus

When one realizes that his life is worthless he either commits suicide or travels ~ Edward Dahlberg

I think suicide is the most perfect thing you can do in life ~ Damien Hirst

The flip side of suicide is that it leaves a lingering question in the minds of the people who survived. It's like a cancer that's metastasized. The suicide is the cancer and the metastasis is all these people saying, Why? Why? Why? ~ Abraham Verghese

No one ever lacks a good reason for suicide ~ Cesare Pavese

That's the thing about suicide. Try as you might to remember how a person lived his life, you always end up thinking about how he ended it ~ Anderson Cooper

There is something great and terrible about suicide ~ Honore de Balzac

Hope is a necessity for normal life and the major weapon against the suicide impulse ~ Karl A. Menninger

Americans tend to endorse the use of physician-assisted suicide and euthanasia when the question is abstract and hypothetical ~ Ezekiel Emanuel

For many centuries, suicides were treated like criminals by the society. That is part of the terrible legacy that has come down into society's method of handling suicide recovery. Now we have to fight off the demons that have been hanging around suicide for centuries ~ Judy Collins

What makes life worth living? Better surely, to yield to the stain of suicide blood in me and seek forgetfulness in the embrace of cold dark death ~ Zane Grey

The suicide arrives at the conclusion that what he is seeking does not exist; the seeker concludes that what he has not yet looked in the right place ~ Paul Watzlawick

The best I can say is that it's better for me to write about despair and darkness than to be incapable of getting off the sofa. It's better to write about suicide than to contemplate it too heavily ~ Paul Westerberg

Suicide doesn't solve your problems. It only makes them infinitely, un-countably worse ~ Sinead O'Connor

One of my favorite movies of all time is 'It's A Wonderful Life,' which is a pretty interesting choice for a seasonal Christmas favorite, because it's about a guy who wants to commit suicide and is presented with reasons not to ~ Frank Darabont

I would be going until I went over the bounds of reality and was then caught up in a profound wish to be dead without having to go through the shaming defeat of suicide ~ Joshua Logan

Just as with homicide, those in the 'passion' category of suicide are much more likely to turn to whatever means are immediately available - those that are easy and quick ~ Scott Anderson

It wasn't until '94 when I tried to commit suicide that I realized that it wasn't about the money ~ Vanilla Ice

I don't think Jimi committed suicide in the conventional way. He just decided to exit when he wanted to ~ Eric Burdon

Suicide is not an answer, it's destruction ~ Al Green

Would Hamlet have felt the delicious fascination of suicide if he hadn't had an audience, and lines to speak? ~ Jean Genet

I don't persuade to suicide ~ Jack Kevorkian

The woman poet must be either a sexless, reclusive eccentric, with nothing to say specifically to women, or a brilliant, tragic, tortured suicide ~ Marilyn Hacker

In the case of the Japanese, they usually commit suicide before they make any apology ~ Chuck Grassley

The counterpart of the suicide is the seeker; but the difference between them is slight ~ Paul Watzlawick

I have a suicide impulse ~ Hal Holbrook

My mother's suicide attempts were a way to release anxiety and get attention. Some of the attempts were drug reactions she didn't even remember later on ~ Lorna Luft

The idea of suicide is of a very set narrative, as if killing yourself is a definitive statement. But it can be just as meaningless as throwing a stone in a river ~ Denise Mina

I was darkly convinced that at age 52 I would kill myself because my mother committed suicide at that age. I was fantasizing that she was waiting for me on the other side of the grave ~ Spalding Gray

Should l go on playing bridge and dining, going in the same old monotonous circle? It's easy that way, but it's a sort of suicide, too ~ Antoinette Perry

I look upon indolence as a sort of suicide; for the man is effectually destroyed, though the appetites of the brute may survive ~ Philip Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield

If you want your writing to be taken seriously, don't marry and have kids, and above all, don't die. But if you have to die, commit suicide. They approve of that ~ Ursula K. Le Guin

We can consciously end our life almost anytime we choose. This ability is an endowment, like laughing and blushing, given to no other animal ... in any given moment, by not exercising the option of suicide, we are choosing to live ~ Peter McWilliams

My Darling Anne, There's a longer letter in the dresser drawer I've been writing for the last week or so, that one covers us, and my memories of us, and how much I've always loved you. This one just covers tonight, and more importantly, today. Tonight I have gone out to the horses to end it. I cannot say sorry for the act itself, although I know for a short time you will be angry at me, or even hate me for it. Please don't. This is not a case of, I came in this world alone and I'm goin' out of it alone, or anything dumb like that. I did not come in this world alone, my mom was there. And I am not goin' out of it alone, 'cause you were there, drunk on the couch, making Oscar Wilde cock jokes. No, this is a case, in some senses, of bravery. Not the bravery of facing a bullet down. The next few months of pain would be far harder than that small flash. No, it's the bravery of weighing up the next few months of still being with you, still waking up with you, of playing with the kids ... Against the next few months of seeing in your eyes how much my pain is killing you. How my weakened body, as it ebbs away, and you tend to it, are your final and lasting memories of me. I won't have that. Your final memories of me will be us at the riverside, and that dumb fishing game, which I think they cheated at. And me inside of you, and you on top of me ... And barely a fleeting thought, of the darkness yet to come. That was the best Anne. A whooole day of not thinking about it. Dwell on this day baby, 'cause it was the best day of my life. Kiss the girls for me, and know that I've always loved you ... And maybe I'll see ya again if there's another place, and if there ain't ... Well, it's been heaven knowing you. Your Boy, Bill ~ Bill Willoughby (Woody Harrelson), Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri